Spokane

Frequently Asked Questions:

HOW MANY PEOPLE WILL COME?  Each couple must make their best guess based on the number of in-town guests, the size of their families, and how close they all are to each other.  The average benchmark is 75%. 

DO I HAVE TO FEED THEM A MEAL?  In a word, yes.  They may not remember WHAT you fed them, but they'll remember that they ate well.  There are two exceptions to this rule:  one is a short, afternoon reception, 2-5pm, with cake and punch.  The other is a later evening reception, 7-11pm, with a dessert buffet (and some cheese & crackers to counter the sugar buzz.)  Both of these are only suited to non-alcoholic receptions.  If you're going to give them drinks you HAVE to feed them real food. 

It does not, however, have to be a huge ordeal.  People like to eat "small food" like sandwiches, fruits, veggies, antipasto, salads, etc.  Check with a caterer, though.  It's often cheaper to feed them a "roast of something" and side dishes because this takes a lot less prep-work than putting together small foods.  Italian or Mexican buffets are also relatively inexpensive and filling.

IS IT OKAY TO HAVE A SMALLER CEREMONY AND INVITE MORE PEOPLE TO THE RECEPTION?  It depends upon your group, but I certainly think so.  Many ceremony venues are smaller than reception venues, and people understand that.  Don't hide it, and make sure there's a reasonable gap in between.  This is one instance where taking your pictures AFTER the ceremony can make a lot of sense.

TOASTS:  A lot of couples are choosing to do an open toast, starting with the maid of honor and best man, but then inviting any other guests to speak.  This is great, but be wary of it going on too long, and make sure you have a good closer, someone articulate with a real connection to you.  A father of the bride/groom is usually a good choice for this. 

DO WE NEED TO PROVIDE FAVORS?  Not unless you want to.  If you choose to do so keep it simple.  Edibles are always good, as are pictures of the two of you.